friends with an ex

common consensus seems that you cannot be friends with your ex.

that's just... plain stupid and strange.

i remain in excellent (albeit sometimes volatile) terms with my past relationships, good, bad and fugly though their times, they, well, they have the dirt on me.. and i sure don't want to forget it.

so in an attempt to get M (gf) on the same page as me... we trekked, 7+ hours to the end of the world to meet her ex... 7 hours one way mind you. yes i did get lost. no, i didn't want to ask for directions. yes, we were both 'tards.

disclaimer about ex: seemingly sweet indian girl with strange behavioral tendencies that involve M tearing up with guilt and M's mom proclaiming that P (M's ex) is vile.

you're right in assuming no one in india actually thinks there is such a thing as 'lesbian relationships'. i believe the appropriate term used is ... wait for it... "phase"

anyway, i am trying to figure out what i think of P, or better yet, do i consider P at all.

this isn't really about P and P's eternal growth.

it's more of a - i really don't want my gf to be guilt-ridden about shit like this - when really, there is nothing to be guilty about. relationships end... some end in a bad way. it's in the past. that's the cool thing about the past... you can just allow it.

en route to P's place, M and i stopped for a drink (water obviously) and chanced on this pet place and there was this white ball of snow-love, our puppy, not wanted and not loved and not needed... how.. tell me how is that possible? so naturally, we took him and we have a puppy... he is without name for now. but not for too long. YAY